Coping with self-harm urges
Wanting to stop self-harming can be tough. You might have self-harmed for a long time, or be unsure how else you can cope and feel in control. But there are ways to get through it.
We’ve got lots of ideas of things you can do instead, and it can help to learn about what makes you want to self-harm so you can learn to cope with triggers. Whatever’s happening, you’re not alone.
If you’ve already self-harmed or you want support, you can talk to a Childline counsellor any time.
If you’re struggling with the urge to self-harm, there are ways to get through without hurting yourself.
We’ve got lots of ways to cope until the urge passes. Use our tool to get ideas of things to do instead of self-harming.
Getting help with self-harm
You don’t have to cope with how you’re feeling alone. Talking about what’s happening can help you to cope and get support. There are lots of ways you can ask for help:
- talk to an adult you trust, or write them a letter
- post anonymously on the message boards about what’s happening
- visit your doctor or talk to a school nurse, or use DocReady to plan what you’d like to say
- speak to a Childline counsellor.
If you struggle to talk, it can help to use the mood journal to keep track of how you’re feeling. You can write about what makes you want to self-harm, what’s helped and how long you’ve managed to go without hurting yourself.