Hi there,

Losing both parents can leave a space in your life that many people around you might not understand. It’s completely natural for you to have strong feelings show up in different ways and places. Grief doesn’t follow a straight line, having emotions like anger, jealously or guilt doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. These feelings are a sign of how important those relationships were to you.

When someone has been through a big loss everyday things can feel difficult, including seeing other families together. Grief can also make someone more aware of how others treat the people in their lives, especially when they know how precious that time can be. These reactions are all part of how people experience bereavement and how they try to make sense of what’s changed.

It's important to remember that feelings are natural and they don’t make you a bad person. Talking about what’s happening can make things feel more manageable. This could be with someone you trust, or even by writing things down in a diary or journal.

Some people find it useful to create their own ways of remembering people they’ve lost. This could be with photos or objects that feel important or doing activities that help them feel connected like creating a memory box.

Finding support can make a big difference, Childline counsellors are there to listen and talk things through at any time.

Take care,

Sam