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Christmas suckks

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my family used to be close but now we've had so many arguments that we barely speak to each other. one of my older sisters and her daughter have moved out, and so has the other sister. I don't even know where my older brother is

Christmas used to be a time spent with family now it's just me and my parents watching tv like any other day.normaly we go on holiday to avoid the awkwardness but this year we can't go so we're stuck at home in the awkward silence

what can i do to make this holiday suck little less

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Sam

Hi there,

Holidays like Christmas can sometimes be stressful if there are family arguments or people you miss. It’s good to focus on what you need to get through the next few days and weeks, and to have a plan to help you cope.

Whatever’s happening, there’s always someone to talk to at Childline because we don’t close, even over Christmas.

Things like social media can make it feel like almost everyone is having fun and that families don’t have disagreements or problems. The images you see aren’t the reality for lots of people, but seeing them might make you feel more alone and isolated.

Try to remember that what you see on TV and social media are usually the edited highlights of someone’s day. Everyone is different, so try not to compare yourself with other people.

If there are friends or family you can’t see because they’ve moved out or they’re not living nearby, you could arrange to keep in touch. Talking with family and friends on the phone or online might make you feel a little closer, even if they’re not there in person.

If you’re worried about what will happen during the day, you could try planning a few activities in advance, like playing a game. Having things to do might make things feel less awkward if you find it difficult to talk to your parents.

Try to help out as much as possible with things like shopping, preparing food or tidying up. Being involved and keeping busy often helps you feel more positive.

You could arrange to spend some time over the Christmas holidays with friends or family you enjoy being with. That way you have something to look forward to.

Buying or making gifts for people you care about is a great way of letting them know how much they mean to you. It doesn’t have to cost money.You could make your own Christmas cards or even send a video message.

When things are difficult, it’s always okay to express your feelings using our Art box, connect with other young people on the message boards or talk to a counsellor at Childline.

Thank you for your letter.

Take care,

Sam

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