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Getting contraception

i am 15 years old, not too far away from turning 16 and the boy I am seeing is 16. I am not yet sexually active however I am ready to be.

i want to get the contraceptive pill but I don't know what would be the best way without my parents knowing, and I don't know if it's the safest, easiest way either, would the implant be better? can I even get the implant without my parents finding out?

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Hi there,

When someone is ready to become sexually active it's good to start thinking about how to have sex safely. There's lots of help and advice for young people who're having sex. And plenty of ways to get the contraception they need, almost always without parents needing to be involved or know about it.

Even though the law says you need to be 16 before you can have sex, there is just as much help for people younger than this to get contraceptives and advice.

Brook has a good list of free places you can get contraceptives from. As well as your doctor, there are sexual health clinics designed just for young people. These are confidential and your parents do not have to be involved for you to get help from them.

It's important to discuss things with the person you want to have sex with. Even if it’s embarrassing. That way you can both agree on things and know what you feel comfortable with. It's also important to think carefully about what feels right for you and to feel in control of making decisions about your relationship and sex.

If you need any more advice you can talk to our counsellors who are to support you.

Take care,


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