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hey so for like 3/4 year iv been getting bullied on and off by this same guy. Hes done things such as spitting on me and once threw a metal water bottle at me head, iv done everything i can telling my parents, school and even police had to get involved....but hes still doing it even if its not physical anymore he talks bad about me and shouts at me and im also worried to go into school because of this. things have also happened like getting told to die and ask if i cut myself (which i dont) just because of my style which i think it so stupid? i just want advice on how to like, deal with this? im just scared to go into school.
Sam
Hi there,
Bullying can happen in lots of different ways and it can impact all different parts of your life, especially when it’s been going on for so long. No matter what’s happening, you deserve support.
Even when someone isn’t bullying you physically anymore, being bullied is still serious. Remember, you’ve got a right to go to school without feeling scared or harassed. It can feel hard to keep telling people what’s happened when things carry on, but it’s still the best way to help make it stop. It can be a good idea to keep a diary of the bullying, including the date, time, and what happened. This can help when you’re trying to tell someone you trust that it’s still going on.
No one has a right to say unpleasant things to you, and learning new ways to respond to bullies can help you to feel more in control. There are lots of ways to be assertive without being rude or aggressive. One way to respond could be fogging, this is where you stay calm and just agree without even listening. For example:
Bully: You’re so ugly. You: Yeah, okay. Bully: Didn’t you hear me, you look rubbish! You: Okay, you think so. Bully: Oh, whatever.
Building your confidence after you’ve been bullied can take time, but with some patience you will build yourself up again. We have lots of ideas to help you get started, and it can help to see how other young people have found ways to cope using the message boards.
Remember that you’re never alone, and you can always get support from Childline about anything that has been going on.
Take care,
Sam
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