I'm lonely. Like, really really isolated, have no one left to turn to lonely.
The people I did have before would listen sometimes, when I'd talk about hurting. They'd all tell me that it'll get better and they're always there, but that last bit was a lie. I don't know if the first bit was too. I don't know if I want it to be.
I'm fed up of always just waiting for the next time it feels ok. I'm living between fleeting moments of happiness that feel almost meaningless most of the time, but I don't feel like I'm allowed to give up whilst that good is still there. But I want to.
I want to be allowed to let go and I don't know how. Maybe it's strange and backwards and twisted I don't know but what do I do if I don't want it to get better, not this time. Because I don't wanna live anymore but I don't wanna die either.
Sam
Hi there,
Loneliness can feel overwhelming sometimes, especially when you’re feeling powerless to change things. Whether you can see things changing in the future or not, you should never have to cope with feelings like these alone.
When things have been building for a while, it can feel harder to try and change things. Even when it’s hard, taking small steps can really help make the days easier. There are lots of things you can try.
Find new ways to express yourself, whether that’s through journaling, drawing, or however you feel comfortable.
Make time each day to do something that helps you to feel proud of yourself, even if it’s small.
Join a group or club – it’s a chance to do something positive, meet new people and try something new.
Volunteer to build your confidence and take part in something meaningful to help others.
Reaching out for support can feel more difficult when you’ve tried before, but there are things that can make it easier. Our counsellors can help you feel less alone and give you a space to be honest about how you’re feeling. There are lots of ways to contact them.
Remember, if life is starting to feel too much or it’s getting hard to carry on then you should always get support. That could be from Childline, a trusted adult, or even by visiting your GP.
It can help to remember that you’re not the only one. Lots of young people post on the message boards about these feelings, and it’s a great place to get support.
With time and the right support, things can change. You deserve to feel happy.
Take care,
Sam
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