I am really worried, I think I am addicted to buying stuff, I have an allowance of £30 a month from my parents (and they pay for all necessities), but I keep spending money really fast. It makes me really worried because I fear I will run out of money. Sometimes I lie and tell my parents I need money for normal everyday stuff, but then I spend it on stuff I don't need. I get really anxious when I am not buying things, but I get anxious when I do too because it all costs money. I think I need a hobby or something, but they cost money too, and I give up on hobbies really quickly anyway. If I see something in a shop, I will not stop thinking about it and I have to buy it to release the urge. I wish I could say I never use the things I buy, but I do. I get good use of it all, but I still always want more. My family are slightly below the average income, so I know money isn't infinite.
Sam
Hi there,
Lots of people struggle with spending money on things they may not need. It can feel difficult if you’re spending money habitually, but there are ways to get your spending under control.
Before you buy something, using the Pause Rule can help you decide if you really want it. Urges to buy things can feel strong in the moment, but they can also fade quickly. Try keeping things to buy in your shopping cart or in the shop for two days before making a decision. Don’t look at anything to do with the item and don’t research it. If you still want it after two days, you can decide then.
Another way to be more mindful about your spending is to keep track of it. Whenever you spend any money at all, write it down. Keep track of how much things cost when you buy them and include exactly why you need it. Writing things down can help you to think about your purchases more, and spot patterns of when you’re spending. Noticing your reasons for spending can make it easier to change.
It can help to remember that your parents are there to support you with your spending. Instead of lying to them, it might help to talk to your parents about ways to spend less. Having people you trust and care about know what you’re doing can help motivate you to change your habits. For example, making a plan with your parents about how you’ll spend your money this month will make you more likely to stick to it.
There are loads of hobbies or fun things to do that don’t cost anything. Try to think about the things you have access to already. You could try things like art, writing, or exercise. You could even try a new small activity each day, so you don’t feel pressure to buy things for a big new hobby.
We’ve got lots of tips to manage anxiety. You could also try swapping ideas on the message boards with other young people.
Take care,
Sam
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