Ask Sam letter

Hi there,

Phimosis is something many boys or biologically male people can experience, especially when you’re younger. It’s brave to reach out about something even when it’s making you feel uncomfortable and it’s positive that you want to take care of yourself.

Phimosis is when someone has a tight foreskin. When children are very young, most can’t pull their foreskins back and this is perfectly normal. As you get older, your foreskin should naturally become less tight and be able to be pulled back. If you’re worried about this, it’s important to get the right support.

It’s important to make sure you’re looking at reliable information if you’re worried about any medical condition. We’re not medically trained at Childline, but the NHS website has lots of information about phimosis, its symptoms, and any treatment.

Phimosis isn’t something to feel disgusted or embarrassed by. If you’re concerned about phimosis or your health, then it’s always best to speak to a doctor. Remember that doctors deal with situations like this all the time, so will make sure you feel comfortable. They’re there to help.

If it helps, you can ask to see the doctor on your own, or for your parents or carers not to be in the room. You can also request to see a male doctor. You might be asked the reason for your appointment, but you can say that it’s private or give a different reason if you need to. Your doctor will want to make you feel comfortable. You could also write down what’s happening to avoid saying it out loud.

The NHS advises to wash your penis regularly with warm water and non-perfumed soap. Your doctor can help answer questions about anything more that might help and can give you reassurance about things like your future relationships.

Remember you are not on your own with this, there’s never a need to be embarrassed and Childline is always here to support you.

Take care,

Sam