Ask Sam letter

Hi there,

Lots of young people feel nervous or embarrassed about asking for things like pads, deodorant, razors, or different bras. Changes to your body are a natural part of going through puberty, so you’re never the only one going through these feelings.

If saying what you need out loud feels difficult, it can be helpful to write a note or send a text instead. Another option is to mention that you’re running low on something, like pads, or ask to look at bras or razors the next time you’re out shopping, without needing to explain too much. This could be a casual way to start the conversation around wanting to shave or try new bras.

It’s always helpful to think about who you feel most comfortable getting support from. It’s good that you want to talk to your mum, and we’ve got lots of advice on asking an adult for help. Remember, Childline is here for you any time you need support.

It’s important to remember that shaving or removing body hair is a personal choice, and there is no one rule that says you have to do it. Some people prefer to, and others don’t. Both are okay and it’s about doing what feels right for you and what you feel the most comfortable with.

Remember, you’re not alone in this and there are many people going through similar things. The message boards are a safe place to talk to other young people to see how they handled difficult conversations or any other tips or advice around puberty.

Take care,

Sam