i have noticed that a lot of my behaviours and actions can be linked to autism and adhd. my family and friends agree too. i really want to get a diagnosis because getting one as an adult us either ling and hard or expensive and i am in dire need for support. my mum is fairly hesitant about getting me a diagnosis because she thinks im doing fine but i am not. how do i convince or is their no need to convince her?
Sam
Hi there,
Getting assessed for autism or ADHD can take time, but it can also help you get the right support and understand more about what’s happening. If you feel like things are affecting your life, then it’s always good to get some help.
When your parents or carers disagree with you about what to do next, it’s important to try and talk this through. Talking things through can help you to think together about the best next steps.
One way to start a conversation is to make a list of the ways you’re struggling. You could show this to your mum and talk about what she thinks. It can help to think about the best time to start the conversation. Try to pick a time when neither of you will be stressed or distracted, and you’ve both got time to talk.
You could see your GP without your parents or carers, but it can help to check that you can with your doctor’s office first. Your doctor will want to ask questions about what’s happening and may refer you to see a specialist. It’s important to remember that even if you can see your GP alone, your parents or carers will usually need to be a part of any assessment.
No matter what happens with your parents or carers, it’s okay to reach out for support from others as well. You could try talking to someone you trust in school, for example. Asking different people can help you get other perspectives, and your school may be able to help you think about ways to manage things even without a diagnosis.
Whatever happens, you’re not alone. We’ve got advice on living with ADHD and autism that can help. You could also share how you’ve been feeling on our neurodiversity board, it’s a great place to get advice and support from other young people.
Take care,
Sam
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