Call 0800 1111
Hello Sam.
I have really strict parents who take my grades very seriously. I honestly try my best at every subject but they don't seem to recognise it. As a result, when my grades came in, i only was achieving standard grades and not exceptional. What do I do to show them that I am actually trying
Hi there,
Coping with pressure from your family can be hard sometimes, especially when you’re trying your best and you’re made to feel like it’s not enough. You can’t control how others respond or act, so it can help to think about how you can best respond.
If you feel safe to, one way to start is by talking to your parents about the work you’re doing. It can help to share how you’re feeling about your workload, as well as talking about what work you are doing for school. Sometimes your parents might not realise how hard you are working, and it can help to share your own experiences.
Your parents should be there to support you. As well as talking to them about how your work is making you feel, it can be a good chance to get support from them to help you to develop and learn. Asking them for support can help to make your work something you do together, instead of something they pressure you with.
Not all parents or carers will respond in the same way when you speak to them. Remember that it’s always okay to talk about how you’re feeling at home with someone you trust, that could be a teacher or even someone at Childline. Talking about things can give you a chance to think about different ways to cope or get support with the future.
When other people are knocking your confidence, it’s important to make time to build yourself up. This could be as small as making a list of things you’ve achieved each day. We’ve got lots of ideas to help you build your confidence.
Remember, even when it’s not seen you deserve to feel proud of yourself for the work you’ve done. Every bit of progress is great, and you're doing your best.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.
