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southport stabbing

i have no words to explain how im feeling but i just cant stop crying, it was so closd to home and i know so many people affected. My dance teacher was in the room and is still in critical condition and i cant do anything. I just feel so guilty for being here when 3 children arent. I am a taylor swift fan, if i was 10 years younger i would have been there

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Hi there,

An event like this affects so many nearby and across the world. There’s no right or wrong way to feel, it’s a tragic event that you had no way of preparing for. It can be very hard to process what has happened.

Being close to people affected by a tragedy like this can feel overwhelming, it’s natural to have feelings of guilt, grief and shock. You’re not doing anything wrong by feeling this way.

You can’t change what happened but doing something positive can help you to cope. This could be anything from laying flowers, sharing a fundraiser, or supporting someone else. What you feel is best is a personal choice.

It's natural to hear lots of news and information about what’s happened. It’s important to be mindful of whether what you’re hearing is accurate, and to focus on trusted sources. Lots of false information can spread on social media, which can leave people more scared and confused.

It’s important to express how you’re feeling and find people you trust to share things with. Lots of people will share your feelings and talking together can help you all to cope and show you’re not alone.

We have lots of support on how to cope with loss and grief. f you’re feeling overwhelmed, we also have activities in the toolbox to help. For anyone worried about the Southport attack, we’ve got advice to help, and you can speak to a counsellor any time.

Take care,

Sam

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