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Someone wants to fight me

Dear sam,

on saturday i got some really threatening messages from a girl who wants to fight me the day of exams starting, i feel really stress and after looking at those messages just made me even more stressed because i don't want to fight its pointless its not going to sort anything out, i told my mum what had gone on and she was quite angry.

what do you think i can do to keep safe and prevent this fight from happening which i dont want

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H there

Sending any kind of threatening messages is a form of bullying and bullying is never okay. Nobody has the right to cause you to feel scared or to feel bad about yourself.  There are steps you can take to keep yourself as safe as possible.

People bully for lots of reasons and it’s never okay. Being bullied online can make it feel like there is no escape from what is happening, especially when you’re being threatened at school as well. It's good that you felt able to talk to your mum as being supported is really important.

There are things you can do when someone is bullying you and that can often mean talking to teachers and those around you. Feeling like you are on your own can be one of the hardest parts of being bullied so having support from others can really help.

There are some practical things you could do to try and make things easier, such as meeting up with a friend so you are not on your own when walking to and from school. Blocking the person sending you messages would also mean you can’t be threatened by them in that way. Threatening someone is serious, so telling the school that this person is doing this would be okay too.

Violence can result in people becoming hurt and sometimes it can lead to police involvement as deliberately hurting someone is physical abuse and it against the law so it wouldn’t be okay for this girl to hurt you.  It is important for you to know that if you ever feel you are in danger, you have the right to call 999 and the police will come and help you.

Childline is here to support you whenever you feel you need it – there’s always someone ready to listen.

Take care


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