Hi Sam. how are you? I really need some help. There’s this girl at school, and things between us have been really toxic for a long time. She says hurtful things, twists situations, and gets teachers on her side while I get blamed. She makes herself the victim and leaves me feeling invisible and like everything’s my fault. I’ve tried to be strong and stay quiet, but it’s building up. I’m not sure what to do anymore. I feel so stuck and low and just need someone to help me figure out what to do next.
Sam
Hi there,
There will always be people you don’t get along with, but when things turn toxic it’s good to get support.
If someone is lying, doing hurtful things, or being mean, this can be a sign of bullying. Bullying is something that’s never okay and it’s not your fault. There are things you can do which can help.
Learning to be assertive can help you to help make your voice heard, especially if someone is being rude or mean to you. This skill means standing up for yourself without being aggressive. Learning anything new can take time and practise, but can get easier
It can be helpful to keep a record of what’s happening. Try making notes of what happens, the date and time, and who was there. If you have any messages showing what’s happened, you can keep these to show as evidence.
Talking to trusted adults and friends about the situation can be a good way to help you to start to feel better. It can help to talk about what’s happened, or even show them any records you’ve written down.
Often when someone is trying to keep quiet about things it can start to build. Our Coping Kit has different ways you can cope and feel better.
Take care,
Sam
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