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Coping with bullying

Dear Sam,

I have been bullied throughout high school and have moved once because of it. I now have a small group of friends but I feel so alone. I am being picked on at my current school by multiple different people in my year, who say my name which intimidates me. It's really hard because I've realised I tried to run away from a problem without telling anyone, but the problem is still there. I don't know whether to tell anyone because there's lots of people trying to intimidate me and it makes me feel really sad. the worst part is feeling like I can't tell my mum about this because I don't want her to worry. Is there any advice you can give me? Especially if I do have a particularly rough day at school, do you have any tips to make me feel good about myself? Thanks for reading.

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Hi there,

Bullying can happen to anyone at any time. But nobody has the right to intimidate you or make you feel bad about yourself. No matter what the reason, bullying isn’t okay and it’s not your fault.

When someone is being bulled, it can be a very scary experience.You don’t have to go through this alone. Although it can feel scary, it’s okay to tell someone about what’s happening to you. You could speak to a teacher about the bullying. Your school has responsibility to protect you from being bullied and they should do something to make the bullying stop once they know about it.

It can really help to have someone support you. Telling an adult you trust can feel difficult sometimes, but it can also help to stop the bullying. And help you cope.

While the bullying is still happening, it can help to record it in a bullying diary. This is somewhere you write down what’s happened, when and by who. You can also say how it left you feeling. Writing down your feelings can sometimes help you to cope too. When you feel ready, something like a bullying diary can help to show people like your teachers and parents what's happening to you.

You might also like to talk to some other young people in similar situations on our message boards. Sometimes, talking to someone else can be a good way to get a different perspective on difficult thoughts and feelings.

Bullying can have a big effect but things can change. There’s lots of ways to build your confidence after being bullied. And any time you’re feeling upset or you want to talk, Childline counsellors are there to listen.

Take care,

Sam

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