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Hi P,
Thanks so much for sharing what youre going through. You sound as though youre going through a difficult time and its really good that youve felt able to write about whats happening. You seem as though youve been having a lot of mixed emotions lately and you described how some days youll feel good and other days youll feel worried and broody. Feelings and emotions can be hard to understand sometimes, especially when they change and we do not know why. It sounds like you try and cope with the difficult feelings by harming yourself and youre worried that its become a habit now.
From what youve explained, it seems like you want to stop making your thumbs bleed. When youre trying to stop self-harming, it is important to find other ways of coping to replace the self-harm that you would usually do. Were all different so whats right for one person might be different to whats right for someone else. Some people might find that it helps them to express their feelings through something that involves physical activity. Others might do something creative and find it helps to draw or write about what theyre going through. If youd like some more ideas about ways of trying to cope, you could take a look at the Young Minds webpage on Self-harm .
Remember that it can take time to reduce and stop self-harming and you might need to try things more than once before they start to work. It can be a good idea to get help when youre trying to stop self-harming so that youre not going through it on your own. Maybe you could think about which people would be good at offering you support at this difficult time. Perhaps a teacher, a friend, the school nurse or someone else you trust. You can always talk this through with ChildLine as well.
Youve done really well to get in touch.
Take care of yourself.
Sam
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