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Hi there,
Thanks for your message.
I am really pleased that you decided to come and tell me the concerns you have about your friend who is trying to hurt herself. A lot of young people hurt themselves to help them cope with feelings and situations around them. It sounds like this might be happening with your friend feeling that her role as a belieber is being lost within her family.
You dont say exactly what she is doing when she tries to hurt herself. Whatever it is, its important that she knows how to keep herself safe. This means keeping any wounds clean and free of infection by covering them and knowing that she can get any help she needs from an adult she trusts or by phoning 999 in an emergency. There is information on our self-harming page which she might find helpful.
You might also like to suggest that your friend contacts a ChildLine counsellor, who she can talk to about what is going on for her and the feelings she has. ChildLine doesnt judge any young person who talks to us. We will always try to keep what is said confidential so that it is just between the young person and ChildLine. You and your friend can find out more about the way ChildLine works here.
It feels like you are being a good friend by listening to and supporting your friend as best you can. This can be very difficult and I want you to know that ChildLine is there for you too. If you would like to talk things through more about your friend or any other issues, you can contact a ChildLine counsellor by free phone (0800 1111), 1-2-1 chat or an email.
Take care for now,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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