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Hi,
Thanks for your letter,
It sounds like the thought of Christmas shopping with your mum is really worrying you. You arent alone in feeling awkward at times, we can all feel embarrassed and uncomfortable, but it seems like this is getting to a stage where its really getting you down. Youve made a great start asking for help.
There are lots of things you can try for yourself to slowly build up your confidence. Check out the Building confidence and self-esteem page in explore for some ideas to start with.
Sometimes talking things through can help, if you have a good relationship with your mum you could think about letting her know how you feel either by talking to her or writing a letter, she may be able to understand and support you. Perhaps she could help you practice how to respond to people from school if you meet them in town. You could try just smiling and saying hi in the mirror, to see if this helps you feel more confident.
Its also worth remembering that when we are feeling self-conscious, its easy to imagine that things like blushing are really obvious to other people. Often other people are far less aware of it than we think they are.
If you feel like your anxiety about meeting other people is stopping you from enjoying things, then it might be worth talking to someone like your school nurse or GP. They will be have heard from lots of young people who are worried or scared about things, and might be able to give you some useful suggestions.
You are welcome to come to talk in 1-2-1 or by ringing 0800 1111, a ChildLine counsellor could talk with you about how long this has been happening for you and how things might be able to start changing. Another thing to try is posting a message on the Childline message board. Other young people will have experienced similar feelings and you might get some great advice.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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