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Hi there,
Thank you for your letter. You have done really well to explain to me what has been going on between you and your mum.
I can hear that your mum thinks your personality has changed since you met this boy and that you have been showing her some attitude. Sometimes people can influence our lives without us realising. Sometimes it is only people on the outside that are able to see the changes in our character or personality. Its normal for parents to worry about their children and at times they will do whatever they have to in order to protect them and keep them safe. This could be what your mum is trying to do, although I can hear that you feel she has got it wrong and doesn't understand you.
It sounds as though being away from him will only cause you to be more upset and stressed. You might want to think about speaking to your mum again and being completely honest with her about how you are being made to feel and what would make you happy. If you were to go behind her back and she found out, it seems like that might make what she thinks about him even stronger.
Your thoughts and feelings are very important and you do deserve to be listened to and supported. Sometimes it can be hard for parents to recognise how much their children have been affected by something which is why it is important to be open. If you find speaking to your mum difficult you could always consider writing her a letter instead for her to read.
If you feel your mum is wrong about this boy, maybe it would help her to get to know him better. Maybe you could introduce him to your mum properly, so she can meet him and start to see him as the person he really is.
Youve taken a really big step by writing to me and Im really pleased you managed to do this. I hope you will feel able to get more support from ChildLine whenever you need it. You can do this by sending emails from your locker, you can have a 1-2-1 chat with a counsellor online or you could or you could ring for free on 0800 1111 and speak to a counsellor on the phone.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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