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Hi there,
It can be really difficult when were worried about people close to us. Especially if were not sure if our worries are right or not. Sometimes we might not know the whole story, so its always a good idea to find out more before we take action, like talking to them or telling someone else.
Its always worth remembering that friends might be telling the truth when we ask about something like this. But when we know they might have other issues or difficulties in their lives, its natural to wonder if the answer they are giving us is meant to make us worry less or even stop asking. It can be difficult for some people to say that theyre having a hard time and finding it difficult to cope, even if theyre close to us.
It might help to think about the way youd like to begin a conversation like this with a friend first. You could think about where and when you might want to talk because getting the time and place right can make conversations like this much easier for both of you. Its also helpful to think about what youll do or say if your friend gives you the same answer again. Ask yourself if youll accept it again. And if not, what will you do or say.
In situations like this it is always good to tell a friend that youre worried about them and to be there for them. Let them know that you care and want to help.
You could tell your friend about ChildLine. Any young person can talk with one of the counsellors confidentially about anything at all. It might also help to have a look at our page on self-harm.
We're also here for you if you'd like support.
Take care,
Sam
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