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Hello there,
Thanks a lot for your email. There are lots of young people who write to me about what its like for them after their parents separate and they have to live between two homes. I can see that for you, this also means that you are responsible for caring for your mum whilst living with her, and your brother whilst staying at your dads place. That sounds like a lot of responsibility for you to have to take on. It seems like there isnt a place that you go to where you dont have responsibility for caring for someone and that sounds like it could be really tiring.
You havent said whether you get any support because of your role as a young carer or whether you know any other young people in a similar situation to you. Sometimes having people to talk to who have similar experiences and difficulties as you can be really helpful.
The ChildLine website has a message board for young carers where you can find out about how other young people in a similar situation have coped and get support from them. Perhaps you could check it out or maybe post something yourself.
Youve said that looking after your mum and your brother means that you dont get to go out with your friends. It can be tough not to have the social life that you want to. Youve also said that you feel scared to tell your parents how youre feeling and it seems like youre worried about how theyd react. It might be that this is something that ChildLine could support you with.
If you were to email them, log on for a 1-2-1 chat online or call ChildLine on 0800 1111, a counsellor could explore what it is about talking to your parents that worries you and perhaps help you to think about what might be able to happen differently.
Thanks again for writing to me.
Take care,
Sam
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