Hi there,
Its natural to have questions when youre thinking about having sex, and its good to try to find out about anything that youre unsure of.
Like other parts of your body, every vagina is different. A lot of girls worry that their vaginas should look a certain way and the most common worry is that it looks wrong or different. Most girls will have had the same worry at some point. Its ok to talk to a nurse or a doctor about anything that youre concerned about or thats making you feel self-conscious or unsure.
Learning about puberty and sexual health at school can involve looking at diagrams of different parts of the body to help us understand. These diagrams might be scientifically accurate, but in real life everyone is different. Sometimes comparing ourselves to pictures and photographs can be unhelpful.
Everyone has questions or worries about sex and its natural to feel like this. Its a good idea to talk to the person that youre thinking of having sex with so that youre both aware of how each other is feeling.
Brook have some good information about vaginas that might be useful to look at. You can also talk to a counsellor and read what other young people say on the message boards if you still want more support.
ChildLine is here for you whenever you need us.
Take care,
Sam
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