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Hi there,
I can hear you want to change some things about yourself but its important to know that everyone is different. Our differences make us who we are.
It's normal to worry about the way you look. But there are some things you can do to build your confidence. Try listing some things you like about yourself. Once you start, you're more likely to notice even more positive things about who you are. You could try doing something new for the first time. Even if it's just answering more questions out loud in class, pushing yourself out of your comfort zone a bit can really help. Check out more tips on building your confidence and self-esteem.
It's wrong of people to call you names. This is bullying. It shouldn't be happening. Bullying can knock your confidence and make you believe that what they are saying is true - even though it isnt true.
If people are calling you names at school, you could speak to a teacher about this. Every school should have an anti-bullying policy. A teacher can help make bullying stop.
I know you feel like your friends say they are fat to make you feel better, but we all have things about our bodies we are not happy with. While you may not think they are fat, they could be unhappy with their body just like you. A lot of people want to be taller - this could be one of the things that your friends think is great about you. Perhaps you could talk to your friends for some support with how you are feeling.
Unless a doctor says otherwise, you do not need to lose weight. If you decide to change some things about your body it is important that you do this because you want to, not because of things other people say. If losing weight is something you want to do, you could speak to a trusted adult or your doctor for advice on how to do this healthily. They will be able to help you with things like diet and exercise.
If you would like to talk about this some more you can always speak to one of our counsellors on 1-2-1 chat or by calling on 0800 1111.
Take care,
Sam
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