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Hi there,
Bullying can really affect your confidence and its wrong for anybody to treat you like that. Its not your fault that somebody spoke to you in that way and it doesnt mean that what theyre saying is true. It can be difficult to build up your self-esteem after being bullied but it helps to remind yourself all the good things about yourself. You could write a list of nice things so that when youre feeling upset about the things the bullies said, you can remember that you are an important person with lots of qualities.
When were feeling low, we sometimes give ourselves a hard time and use negative self-talk (which means that we say unkind things to ourselves about ourselves). Its interesting to think about whether wed treat a friend the same way we sometimes treat ourselves, when we call ourselves these types of words. How about thinking of something kind that you could say or do for yourself? You could draw yourself a picture, tell yourself something nice or do an activity you enjoy. Have a look at our Creative Tool, where you can create your own image or look at some created by other young people. You can also check out our tips for feeling better about yourself.
Im concerned that youre starving yourself. That can put you in a lot of danger and Id always recommend getting medical advice about any changes to your diet so that you can keep healthy and safe. You can also speak to a doctor about this as they can help you with advice and treatment.
If the bullying is still happening, please remember that you can get help to make it stop. It can feel frightening to let somebody else know but having others there to support you, like a teacher or adult you trust, can help you to feel less on your own.
If youd like to talk it through with a ChildLine counsellor, remember that you can get in touch with them any time.
Thanks so much for writing to me.
Take care
Sam
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