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Hi there,
It can be really difficult when you have decided something about your life thats different to what your parents have planned. It could mean you might worry about the impact this could have on relationships in the family.
Choices about education can be difficult and it might be important to take your time to make sure you are coming to the best decision for yourself. The making decisions page has some ideas about how to work towards that.
Telling your family you decision is important; especially if that means changes will have to happen like someone moving house. Finding the right way to do this could help them to appreciate the importance of the decision you have made. You know your family best, so perhaps have a think about what could work for you. You could think about arranging a time for all of your family members to be together or choose one person to tell first. If talking feels hard for you, writing a letter or some notes might be a way to start the conversation. You could also look at our advice on talking to an adult.
Its natural to worry about the impact your choices will have on your family. Its also important to remember that you have the right to make your own choices about your education and your future. The ChildLine counsellors will be happy to support you if you would like to talk to someone.
Take care,
Sam
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