Hi Sam so basically for the past year I've been obsessing over the Royal Navy and it's just been the only thing I was thinking about and I just read the jsp 950 which is basically a manual for medical fitness and I realised that I have some mental health things on my medical history which can and will probably disqualify me medically and pair that with a condition so yeah
I've just felt really angry and disappointed because I just realised that I can never serve in the armed forces in my life which really hurts me and I realised that even any other job such as civil service will never go near the navy and I see other kids with clean medical histories (well I'm assuming that) expressing interest and it's like seeing someone go through a door I cannot which makes me jealous and angry how on gods good earth do I even cope knowing that any other career just feels straight up "fake"
Yeah but that's all thanks
Sam
Hi there,
Loss can come in lots of different forms. Losing the chance for a career you’re passionate about can be a massive thing to cope with. It can take time to come to terms with the change.
It’s really important to allow yourself time to grieve about what you’ve found out. When you’ve lost something that didn’t exist yet, it can sometimes feel like you’re not able to express it. What you’re feeling is valid though and talking about it can help. Remember, Childline is always here to listen.
Try to remind yourself that things can feel differently in the future, and that other careers may not always feel fake. When you’re ready, it can help to get a second opinion about what else you might want to focus on. You could try researching ideas with someone at home or even a careers advisor at school.
It can also help to find out more about what you could or couldn’t do with the Royal Navy. You can contact them via their website and ask any questions about what you could do. If you’re worried about how asking might affect you, it can help to get support from someone you trust first. Even if their answer isn’t what you want, they may be able to help you see other careers in the future.
Take care,
Sam
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