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My future

So i left college (to the disappment of my parents) I left for personal things and so now I looking for a job but it's hard when you want a good job in the art world but have no degree in that field and everyone want you to have a degree now a days. And my parents want me to get a job but ever time we talk about it we end up in a fight and never get anywhere.

Its also very horrible when people ask me what I doing and I have to say "self employed" Were as my brother and cousin and most of my friend have all been to uni and some have great job, it's very degrading and embrassing.

I just don't know what to do.

If you hpave have any advice that would be great. Thanks.

Ask Sam


Hi there,

It can be tough getting into your first job and knowing what employers want can be difficult to figure out on your own. Getting careersĀ guidance can really help you to work out what you want to do. Getting experience doesn't have to be through a jobĀ - we can have relevant experience from all parts of our lives.

When employers ask for experience, sometimes they want you to have done that specific job before. Often however they are really looking for you to be able to show you have the skills to do the job - so you'll need to find a way to show them this. Sometimes taking jobs that require less experience first can be a good way to build up your CV.

If you wanted to do volunteer work this is a great way to get skills to show an employer. Be on the look out for opportunities to volunteer for a charity - especially if it's something in the field of work you'd like to do.

If you're feeling embarrassed talking about what you're doing at the moment, you might want to think about what is making you feel embarrassed. If this is because you feel like other family members have progressed into careers faster than you, just remember that it's up to you to decide what makes someone successful. The most important person to feel good about your situation is you - it's okay to take your time to work out what you'd like to do.

One important thing to remember is that whilst you are young, there are more opportunities to try things that might not work out. You can learn just as much from failing at something as you can from succeeding.

Our message boards are a good place to chat to other young people who are trying to make decisions about the future. And if you want to talk about anything, we're always here for you whenever you need us.

I hope this helps, thanks for your letter.


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