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hi sam it is nothing big but it hurts me inside more than people realise i feel disinvolved sometimes i have told someone at school they said to try and involve yourself and dont make them come to you so i go to them and they just carry on talking even though they see me i dont want to tell my mum because i wanted to just see if it got better but it still carries on because my old teacher last year told all the girls but they are doing it this year and i know one of my freinds in school has the same problem as me but i dont wish to say her name.
thx for listning please get back to me soon. ;)
Hi there,
Thank you for sharing how youre feeling. It seems like youre having an upsetting time at school and I can hear that it hurts when you dont feel included.
You said that you dont think people really know the pain it puts you through when youre not part of things. Sometimes other people dont realise the effect theyre having on you. Although your last teacher mentioned it to the girls, it could help to remind them. If they dont listen, perhaps you could think about letting a teacher know about it again.
When people leave you out on purpose, its classed as bullying and people are not allowed to do it. There are rules at school to protect people from being bullied. If you think theyre doing it on purpose, its important to get an adult involved so they can help to sort things out. Nobody has the right to bully you and make you feel bad like this. Its not your fault its happening.
You can also find out what other young people think about this by taking a look at the Bullying section on the message boards. Remember that you dont have to go through this on your own.
ChildLine counsellors can be there to listen to you and to your friend. You can phone, log on for a 1-2-1 chat or email them any time. Maybe you could let your friend know about this as well.
Youve done a really great job writing to me about this. Thanks again for your letter. I hope you get the help you need to get this sorted. You deserve to feel happy and included at school.
Take care,
Sam
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