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I'm struggling

Hi sam, iam only 12 and my best friend bullys me in ways iam shocked she calling me names sometimes tries to toich me but i always find a way to stop her from even getting close to me and she makes comments on my body i have a really bad medical condition were the more stress i get the more weight i put on from my thiroides i never wanted to share this but aince she has moved schools and we are no longer in touch i wanted to share my experience

Ask Sam


Hi there,

Thank you for sharing your experience. This can always be helpful for other children and young people.

Bulling is never ok and your friend calling you names and making comments about your body is not right. It's great that you've been able to share what is going on for you and writing this letter is an important first step in getting help and support. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and kindness and there are a few things you can do to get the bullying to stop and to make yourself feel better too.

One thing that can help is to tell someone your trust about what is going on. For some people this might be a parent or carer, while for others it could be another friend or a teacher. Talking to your friend who is bullying you could be an option too – sometimes if a friend understands the negative impact their behaviour is having on you, it can help them to stop and change their behaviour.

In some cases when the bullying is online, people might keep a record of text messages or record screenshots of the bullying to show someone else what has been happening. It can also help to do things you enjoy that help to take your mind off things and help you relax – that can be different for everyone but the Coping Kit and the Calm Zone on the Childline website can offer great help and ideas when things are tough, or you need a distraction. The counsellors at Childline can offer great help too.

Take care.


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