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Hi,
Youve done really well to tell me what youre going through and I can hear that part of you is feeling ready to share this with somebody else. Your form tutor sounds like someone you feel able to trust and it seems as though it would mean a lot to you if he knew how youd been struggling.
It can feel really difficult to start talking about your feelings and it can help to practise so you feel more confident about what you want to say. Im really glad that you felt able to write to me about it. How do you think it would feel to speak to a ChildLine counsellor so that you can go over the things youd like to talk to your tutor about? Many young people find it helpful to practise what they are going to say in a safe and private place.
You sound as though youre going through a lot and it might be a good idea to take a look at our page on depression. The Young Minds website is also a good place to look for help when youre feeling anxious or depressed.
From what you explained youre worried about your form tutor telling somebody else or speaking to your parents. It seems like your parents already know about this and Im wondering whether it might help for them to hear about it again from your form tutor. I noticed that you said that they dont seem to understand what youre going through. You sound as though youve thought a lot about the sorts of things that could help you at school. Perhaps you could think about how youd like your parents to support you and let them know about what would help more.
If youre not sure about talking to somebody face to face, remember that you can let them know in other ways. For example, you could send them a letter or email to explain things. Often, the person might then ask to talk to you about it, but these can be ways of starting off the conversation with them. It might also be useful for you to look at our advice about asking an adult for help.
Its great that you got in touch and this seems like it might be the first step towards you speaking out and getting the help you need. I hope things go well for you. Remember that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor for support.
Take care,
Sam
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