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I am really scared of school for 3 terams now I have been crying because my mum goes I do not want to go to schoolanymore I am in year 3 now please help me
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Hi there,

Thank you for letting me know how you feel about school.

It sounds like you’re having an upsetting time right now. You’ve done well to write to me about this. You do not tell me anything about what it is around school that makes you so scared or what makes you not want to go. 

Feeling scared can sometimes make you feel like there is no way out or that no one can help. This is particularly difficult for you as you tell me that this has been going on for some time. School can mean different issues for different people and it can be hard when school feels like a place we do not want to go to.

How about choosing an adult who you trust and speaking to them about what’s making you scared? You don’t have to go through this worry on your own. It might be a good idea for somebody at school to know so that they can work with you to help make school less frightening. You don’t have to start off the conversation by talking face-to-face if you find that difficult. There are lots of ways to get talking – writing a letter, drawing a picture or whatever works best for you.

You mentioned that you cry when your mum goes. I’m not sure how much your mum knows about what’s making you upset at school. It could help to let her know too so that she can support you. If you’re not sure about speaking to your mum or school yet, remember that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor instead. They can help you feel ready to talk to someone and think about what to say and how you will say it.

I’m glad that you felt able to tell me what you’re going through. Remember you do not have to go through this alone.

I hope you get the help you need.

Take care,

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