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Hi,
Thank you for your letter.
Youve done so well to talk about whats happening at home with your stepdad. The names he is calling you are horrible and I can hear that its really making you feel down, to the point where you're having suicidal thoughts. It is very wrong of him to talk to you in such a hurtful way, even if he says its just a joke. This is emotional abuse, and nobody has the right treat you like this.
Youve told me that his words are making you feel pathetic. He is calling you these names to be cruel, not because they are true. When you hear bad things about yourself over and over, it can be hard not to take them to heart, but I want you to know that you dont need to believe what he is saying. If youd like help with feeling more positive about yourself again, the information on Confidence and Self-esteem in Explore might help.
It sounds like self-harm has been a way of trying to cope with all the worries and negative thoughts in your head. I was wondering how your last cut is doing, since you said it was very deep. It is important to clean wounds and anything you use to cut, to stop you getting infected. You can call NHS 111 to talk about any injury that you are worried about. In an emergency (if there's a lot of blood or the bleeding wont stop) you can call 999 to get help straight away.
I am concerned that you are having really suicidal thoughts. It sounds as if you have really had enough of everything thats happening. Its important you talk to someone about these feelings. I want you to stay safe, and with the right help, I believe that you can start to feel more hopeful. It seems that something made you stop going to the counsellor after that first session. I know that counselling can feel painful and difficult sometimes, particularly to begin with, but many young people have told me that it has made a real difference for them over time.
You did so well to tell your mum about the self-harm before. I wonder if you could talk to her again? Your mum has a responsibility to take care of you and to stop your stepdad from treating you like this. If you dont feel able to talk to your mum, could you talk to another relative, or a teacher, or parent of a friend? You really do deserve support with this situation. Remember, you can always talk to the ChildLine counsellors in private too.
You can call the ChildLine counsellors free on 0800 1111. Or you can log on for a 1-2-1 chat or email them for support.
Take care
Sam
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