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Hi there,
Your age shouldn't be the only thing that means you're ready to wear a bra. Everyone develops at different speeds. Some girls need a bra earlier (or later) than others, and during puberty the body changes a lot for boys and girls.
You might hear about girls your age wearing bras already, but its important that if you feel you need a bra you are able to talk about this and get what you need.
Its hard when parents say 'no' to things, but there is a difference between them saying 'no' to something you want and something you need. At some point you will probably need a bra and because making sure you have enough clothes and underwear is part of a parents job, they should take you seriously.
If you find theyre not giving you what you need, then it might help to talk to people that could either get a bra for you or help you to talk to your parents and change their mind. If you have grandparents, aunts/uncles or older siblings then these are all people who might be able to help you.
It would be a good idea to give your parents a chance. Even if they usually say 'no' to things, this might be something theyre happy to do for you.
I hope that helps, remember that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor if you wanted to.
Sam
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