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My Twin

I have a non-identical twin sister who HATES  me. She'll embarress  me in front of my friends 'till i cry in public , she'll hurt me. Her day won't be finished until she knows she's hurt me. Whether its making sure she will tell me im ugly, or scream to the boy that I like how i have fantasies about him . I've asked her to stop but the only way she will is if i blatently act like an everlasting slave to her...what can i do??
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Hi there,

Thank you for your letter telling me how things are for you.

It sounds like your sister is making your life difficult at the moment. You say she is always out to make your day a bad one. I want you to know it is not ok that she is treating you this way. You've told me that she calls you names and makes you cry. This sounds like bullying, and no-one has the right to do this. It is very unfair that you feel like you have to be her slave so that she won’t be cruel to you.

You've done really well to write this letter. It sounds like you have decided that you want her to stop treating you this way, and that is a great first step. You shouldn't have to go through anything alone and you have a right to ask for help and support when you need it. I wonder who there is in your life that could support you with this. Sometimes talking to a family member, friend or teacher, for example, can help things seem easier to manage. Maybe you can have a think about who you have in your life that you feel close to and get support from.

If someone is bullying you, it can help to keep a diary about what is happening and writing down your feelings too. You can then use your diary to help you explain things to someone else.

Talking about our feelings can be difficult, but you can talk to a ChildLine counsellor at anytime through a 1-2-1 chat. The counsellors can help you practice what you might want to say. They might also talk about the different ways to share your thoughts with someone. If you would like to find oout more about talking to a counsellor at ChildLine have a look at our Talk page.

You might also find it helpful to check the Message boards. This is a space for you to go to talk with other young people with similar experiences and get support and advice.

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Take care,


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