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Hi there,
Thanks so much for taking the time to write to me. You sound worried about your sister and I can tell that you care about her a lot. You mentioned that she is always upset after talking to her boyfriend on the phone and it sounds like youre wondering whether to try and help or whether to ignore the worried feeling you have. When somebody you care about is feeling sad, it isnt always possible to fix things but sometimes it can help to let them know that youre there if theyd ever like to talk. That means that your sister has the choice and can come to you if she wants to speak about whats happening. Perhaps you could choose a way of letting her know youre there for her to talk to. Youve done well to write to me. Maybe you could write to her saying she can come to you for support if she wants.
You said that she goes to his house although hes 15 and shes 13. If youre ever worried about her safety, remember that its alright to get help and you dont have to keep the worries to yourself. Im not sure whether you are feeling worried about her safety, if you are, maybe think about letting a family member know about it so that they can make sure shes alright. You also mention that you worry because she is sad - sometimes worries can be hard to ignore and it can take more to ignore them than to talk to someone about them. You have started talking about your worries by writing to me.
Its good that youve written to me about this and if youd like some more ideas from people your own age, remember you can always use the ChildLine message boards. Some people like to read them to see what is being said and before they post. You can search on a particular topic and if you want you can start your own thread.
Thanks for your message.
Take care,
Sam
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