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hi sam so my mum is keen to move away at the end of the school year -she hasnt found a house and she hasnt even put ours on the market she wants to move because she has to spend 2hrs in the car travelling to and fro everyday . me and my dad dont want to move but i know my dad will eventually say yes but i really dont want to as i will be going to a different school to all my friends from primary school i would really like to stay near them . i grew up in this house and these streets as they are like my second home everybody knows me and i really dont want to move. i havent told my mum help plz xx
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Hi there,

Families can move house for lots of different reasons and this can be worrying and difficult.

When you’ve lived in the same place for a long time it can be hard to imagine living or being anywhere else, especially if you have good friends close by and you feel happy there.

Moving house can feel scary, but it can also give you lots of exciting new opportunities and chances of making new friends and creating new memories. It might be difficult to feel excited when you have lots of worries but it’s important to think of both the positives and negatives when you’re looking at a situation or a possible change.

You mentioned that you haven’t told your mum how you feel and this might be something you want to try. If mum is making decisions that involve you then knowing how you feel and what your worries are about moving could help her make a decision that is right for the whole family. Find out more about asking an adult for help.

While you may not always get to make the big decisions in your family by yourself, it’s important that how you feel and what you would like is listened to and considered.

Remember you can talk to a ChildLine counsellor about how you feel. They are here to listen to you and support you.

Take care,

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