My mum's dealing with the menapores and she's recently just got rid of her ex partner. She usually gets rid of him every month then goes back to him in the same day. He's an abusive person and has been sentenced to court for domestic violence recently. He wasn't charged with anything at all. My mums getting to the point where if she cant get anything she wants then she will take it out on me verbally. What can i do? I want to move out but I don't know where to go. Please give me some advice.
Sam
Hi there,
You have the right to be safe from that sort of behaviour. If youre ever feeling in danger from him, you have the right to call 999 for emergency help. You can also contact ChildLine so that a counsellor can support you in telling somebody about whats happening. We can help keep you safe. Organisations like social services and the emergency services can also help in situations like this.
There are also lots of organisations that can help people who are living with domestic violence. Theres a website called The Hideout, which has lots of advice and information about what you can do if youre a young person living in a home where theres domestic violence.
You mentioned that your mum is dealing with the menopause. This can be a difficult time both for those experiencing it and also for those close to them. If youd like to find out more about that, you can take a look at the NHS webpage for more information on it. I can hear that your mum is having a difficult time right now. She can get professional help with this by speaking to a doctor.
Its not okay for your mum to take out her frustration on you. Im wondering whether anybody else knows about whats happening with your mum. It could help to let another adult know about whats going on so that they can support you with it.
It sounds as though youd like to move out but youre not sure where youd go. If youre under 16, you wouldnt be able to leave home unless you have your mum's permission or if social services get involved.
If youre over 16 and living in England, you can find out more information about your housing rights by taking a look at the Shelter website. For people over 16, living in Wales, theres information on Shelter Cymru. And for people in Scotland, you can look on the Shelter Scotland site.
For information in Northern Ireland, call 028 9024 7752 or contact ChildLine directly for more information about support in your local area.
Youve done well to get in touch and I really hope that you get the support you need.
Take care, Sam
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