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Hello,
Thanks for writing a letter to me. It sounds like youre in a very difficult situation where youre ready to take steps to become the person you want to be, but are being stopped.
It was very brave for you to come out as transgender to your mother and be honest about who you are. It sounds like your mother isnt accepting who you want to be. Its ok to want to be able to wear what you want, be addressed how you want to be or be attracted to who you feel attracted to. And its wrong for your mum to be unsupportive.
You say you feel that no one in your family is being supportive or showing any care about your gender, and this sounds like youre feeling alone. It was really brave of you to speak out about your suicidal feelings and Id encourage you to talk to a counsellor about whats going on. Theyre there to listen and support you, and they can help you find ways to cope. You could also look at the message boards where you can get support from other young people in similar situations.
There are places who specialise in support for transgender people and their families which you might find helpful such as Gendered Intelligence and The Albert Kennedy Trust.
Your mothers behaviour sounds hurtful and perhaps the comments are getting too much for you now. Its okay feel hurt by her actions, and perhaps by getting support it may help you and your mother to work on your relationship and her acceptance of your gender.
I hope what I have said has helped.
Thank you for your letter.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
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