i have a family support worker who attempted to help rebuild healthy relationships in the home with me mum and dad after 2 years of hell at home. my parents were super strict and had such high expectations it got me down. my mum and dad were no longer spewking to me, i self harm and with my gcses coming up my support worker suggested a break so i moved in with my nan. My parents want me back home but im so much happier at nans. what should i do im 16. Thanks
Sam
Hi there,
It’s natural to want to stay in a place that makes you feel happier. When you’re 16 or 17, you have the right to leave home without your parents or carer’s permission as long as you have somewhere safe to stay. Even when you have the right to choose, it might not always feel that simple.
Your opinions about where you live matter and should always be taken seriously. It’s important to talk about what you want with the people supporting you. It can be helpful to make sure your nan knows what you want, and to talk to your family support worker about what your rights are.
Your nan and support worker can also help you to speak to your parents. If it feels comfortable, think about ways you can still build on things with your parents without moving back. Even if your nan or others are encouraging you to move, you still deserve to feel happy where you live.
Whatever you decide, you have a right to feel safe, respected and supported in the place you live. Childline is here to help you through this, and we have lots of advice on coping with self-harm and exams. You can also get support from a counsellor any time.
Take care,
Sam
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