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How do I tell my parents I want to become a Muslim? | Ask Sam

For the past three years I have been researching Islam. There is a lot I like about it and I know Muslims are all very different, so there isn't one way to be Muslim, and not all Muslims have the same opinion on things. I have been considering reverting for a while, but I'm serious about it now. I don't know how to tell my parents! Because there are a lot of stereotypes about Muslims, they might think I've been coerced into it, or that I will become a fundamentalist. How do I bring this up and get them to listen and take me seriously?

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Sam

Hi there,

Reverting to Islam or converting to any new religion can be an important journey in a person’s life. For some people it can be difficult to do, especially if their family has different beliefs. It’s important to remember that there’s support there for you.

It can help to remember that even though you’ve been researching Islam for years, this will all be new to your parents. For some, it may take time for them to adjust and accept your beliefs, especially if they’re surprised. Even if someone doesn’t understand at first, it doesn’t mean they’ll never accept you.

Sometimes it can help to take things at a slower pace. For example, you could start bringing religion and Islam into more of your conversations. Talking about Islam in this way can also help you to share what it means to you in a safer way while challenging different stereotypes you’re worried they might believe. In time, you can start to explain that you’ve been researching Islam and the things which have made you feel connected to it.

When you’re ready to tell someone, try to choose a person you trust and who you feel would be accepting. Telling one person at first can feel easier and means they can help you to talk to other people as well.

Whether you’re ready to tell your parents or not, Childline is here to support you. You can also share things any time with a Childline counsellor.

Take care,

Sam

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