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Can i move to live with a family member?

I'm 14, 15 in a few months and we've been fighting for years but recently the fighting in my house has gotten out of control and i cant take it anymore, I lose concentration on my school work, all we ever do is fight we never get along, i've been looking online and i saw somewhere that i can live with a family member if i wanted, my school counselor thinks it would be a good idea for me to move so i could get away from all the fighting, i was wondering if it was legal for me to move in with a family member with the help of a school counselor with out my perents permisson because i know they wouldn't let me.Thank you!
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Hi there,

Fighting or arguing at home can be really hard to deal with. It's natural to feel  frustrated when this has been going on for a long time.

Schoolwork, relationships and feelings can all suffer when things at home are upsetting and unstable. When this goes on for a while it's natural to want to be somewhere else.

Researching this online can sometimes be helpful. But it's always a good idea to be sure you're getting your information from an reliable and up-to-date source. Talking to a trusted adult is always a good idea when we're unsure or just need some advice. And it's important to be clear about what they're telling us.

You said your school counsellor thinks it would be helpful to live somewhere else but there are important legal things to think about. You can get free legal advice from Children’s Legal Centre who can offer advice on family issues, attending court or education as well as other stuff. 

I can't say whether you can move in with another family member as you describe but it's likely that the Children’s Legal Centre will be able to answer questions like these.

You can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor about that or anything else. A ChildLine counsellor is a good person to talk to about your worries and to practise what you might say.

Take care,

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