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Hi there,
You have every right to keep yourself safe from people or situations that youre uncomfortable with and Im really impressed youre doing that. At the sleepover, this girl wasnt sensitive to how you felt, and that has stayed with you.
When I read your letter, I immediately understood how anyone might feel pressured when at someone elses house to go along with whats happening. Peer pressure is a really hard thing to cope with, especially when a situation is suddenly forced on you.
Only you can know what you really want to say to this girl. In general, Id say one option is to be truthful and to politely say your experiences with her in Year 6 have made you feel you want to have a saying hi only friendship with her right now. Theres always the option of just continuing to not answer her question in any depth, since you only have to say what youre comfortable with.
Its never easy to have what could be an awkward conversation. You might want to look at our pages on friendships and being assertive. It might help you think through what you might feel able to do.
Talking to a ChildLine counsellor might also give you a chance to think about what you want to say to her and come up with a plan of how and when to do that. If you still have some complicated feelings about the sleepover, our counsellors could support you and help you to take a look at how you feel in more detail. You can call on 0800 1111, send an email, or log on for a 1-2-1 chat.
Take care,
Sam
You can talk privately to a counsellor online or call 0800 1111 for free.
You can ask me about anything you want, there's nothing too big or small. I read every single letter but I can only answer a few each week. My replies are published here on my page.