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Should I dump my boyfriend?

Hi, I'm 11 years old and I'm going out with this boy but I feel like it's not working. Then I found out that my best friend likes me and I'm stick in the middle. My boyfriend keeps flirting with a girl that likes him because she told me and my best friend said that I should dump him and go out with him. I don't know what to do anymore
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Hi,

When you’re feeling confused about relationship choices, it’s important to remember that only you can decide what feels best for you.

If you feel like your relationship with your boyfriend is not working, then a first step could be to talk to him about it. Telling him about the things that aren’t working for you can give you both a chance to either fix the situation or decide that it’s best to end the relationship.

Preparing what you want to say can help you to feel ready to have a difficult conversation. It might also be a good idea to consider where and when you can both talk privately – that way your boyfriend can talk with you without feeling embarrassed in front of others.

Relationships can be complicated, and it’s often a good idea to think about what you are hoping to get from a relationship. It was brave of your best friend to explain their feelings for you but you always have the right to decide whether you want to stay as just friends or to start a different kind of relationship together.

We have some more advice about relationships that might be helpful to read and if you would like some support on how all of this has been making you feel you’re welcome to talk to a counsellor.

Take care,
Sam

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