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Pregnant :/

hello sam. am victoria and am 16 and i was sexual abuse from the age of 6 to the age of 13. i came out with it at christmas on 2008 and iv had two misscarrages one at 11 in yaer 7 and one in yaer 8 and i was 13 when i was going thou court to send him down into prision. He got 15 yaers for what he done to me and my sister !!

i am writing to you tonight as i am 16 and i think i might be prgant. it's been 2week fromt eh accashal sex and i went to a house party and i was very very drunk. i passed out like 5 times and i had sex with this 19 yaer old and we did not use anything and am scerd that i am pregant. Don't know when to take a test and i just really need your help..


Thank you sooo much xx

Ask Sam


Hi Victoria,

Thanks for your letter in which you give me some information about your background, and also talk about your immediate worry that you might be pregnant.

You ask when you should take a pregnancy test. Most pregnancy tests work as soon as a period is late (so from the day after your period is due). If you don't have a regular cycle, it can be difficult to know when your period is due, so it is best to take the test three weeks after having unprotected sex. This is roughly how long it will take for the hormone levels to show up on the test.

You said that you had casual unprotected sex, so it would also be a good idea to get checked out for sexually transmitted infections (STIs). You can find out more about sex, sexual health and pregnancy on the Brook website. You could also have a look  in the Explore section of this website where there is information on pregnancy

If you would like to talk some more about any of the things you raise in your letter,  please think about speaking  to a ChildLine Counsellor. They won’t judge you or put you down and they are not easily shocked. Instead, they will listen and help talk you through your options. You can talk to a ChildLine counsellor by phoning for free on 0800 1111, or through the 1-2-1 online chat. What you say to ChildLine is kept confidential unless they are worried that you or someone else is in real danger.

Take care


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