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Hi there
Thanks for writing to me about your friendship group and telling me how youre feeling right now. It sounds like you miss the way things used to be with your friends. Two friends in particular seem to be upsetting you at the moment. When friends start to behave differently, it can be really tough and I can tell that you are trying to work out the best thing to do.
It seems like what the two friends said about other friends using you has made you wonder if they are telling the truth. Its really hard when someone says something like that and we begin to have doubts about people we feel we know.
It also sounds like you know that the same two friends try to create problems in other ways, such as causing arguments. It might be that they want to break away from the bigger friendship group but for some reason dont want to say. Im wondering whether you feel that these two friends bring anything good for you. Its not ok for them to upset you in the way they have.
How would it be to see what happens next with the two friends, while you still enjoy your friendship with the other group members? It might be that time will show what the two friends really want to do. If they do want to be away from the bigger group, then it might be that no one can change their minds.
Check out the information about Friends in our Explore section - I think you might find it useful.
If you like, you could also take a look at the ChildLine message boards - this is where young people share their thoughts and ideas about friendships. You could also start your own thread to get some ideas from the other young people on the message boards.
If you would like more support with this, you can speak to a ChildLine counsellor for free, by ringing 0800 1111, or you could log in for a 1-2-1 chat online.
I wish you the very best of luck with this.
Take Care
Sam
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