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My Crush

I have a crush on “M” at my school and I don't know what to do cause he don't feel the same way.

Hope you can HELP!

Ask Sam


Hi there,

There can be lots of reasons why someone doesn’t feel the same way as you. Sometimes they’re looking for something different. And sometimes that they’re just not looking for a relationship right now.

When someone doesn’t feel the same way about you, that’s just how they feel. It’s not because you’ve done anything wrong. Remember that however much you might want to, you can’t change how someone else feels.

Sometime when you have a crush it can feel like you can’t think about anything else. It can be good to remember what you used to be interested in, before all of this started. Sometimes this can be spending time with friends, sometimes listening to music or watching TV. It’s often helpful to not spend time with your crush for a while.

Distracting yourself can help give you time to move on from your crush and can remind you of the things you used to enjoy. It’s always okay to want to talk to your friends about how you’re feeling.

If you don’t feel able to talk to friends, you can always post about how you’re feeling on our message boards. This can help you let out how you’re feeling and get support from people who have been through the same things.

No matter what, you can always talk to ChildLine about how you’re feeling. ChildLine can help you to think about what’s been happening, how you’re feeling and what you think is best for the future.

Take care,

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