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My school ... is going on a hockey and rugby tour, I don't what to go on the tour as it is over my birthday and I don't like many of the people going. But one of my friends ... is wanting me to go and she was quite upset when I didn't what to go what should I do .
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Hi there,

It can feel difficult to stick to your decision if you're feeling pressured into doing something that you don’t necessarily want to do. But it’s okay to say no.       
It’s normal for friends to disagree sometimes. After all, everyone is different and has different beliefs about things. However, this doesn’t mean that you or your friend should change in order to be friends. In a friendship you should feel able to be yourself and talk about your thoughts and feelings. This way you can both understand each other’s opinions and why you may be behaving in certain ways. 

I’m wondering what it would be like to talk to your friend and let them know that you don’t want to upset her but explain your feelings and why you don’t want to go? Perhaps you could organise something to do together afterwards if you do decide not to go on the rugby tour.

There are a few pages on friendships which you might find helpful to look at. 

Don’t forget that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor who are here if you need to talk things through.

Hope this helps.

Take care,

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