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Hi there,
It can feel difficult to stick to your decision if you're feeling pressured into doing something that you dont necessarily want to do. But its okay to say no.
Its normal for friends to disagree sometimes. After all, everyone is different and has different beliefs about things. However, this doesnt mean that you or your friend should change in order to be friends. In a friendship you should feel able to be yourself and talk about your thoughts and feelings. This way you can both understand each others opinions and why you may be behaving in certain ways.
Im wondering what it would be like to talk to your friend and let them know that you dont want to upset her but explain your feelings and why you dont want to go? Perhaps you could organise something to do together afterwards if you do decide not to go on the rugby tour.
There are a few pages on friendships which you might find helpful to look at.
Dont forget that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor who are here if you need to talk things through.
Hope this helps.
Take care,
Sam
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