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Hi there,
It can be really difficult to know what to do when a relationship ends. It must have been really exciting when he asked you out and its normal to be confused, especially when the next day he said he didnt want a relationship.
From what hes said, it sounds like he does like you, but this may be just as a friend as he has said he doesnt want a relationship. Its hard to know what hes thinking without talking to him. Its important to remember that its not his fault he feels this way just like you cant control the way you feel about him.
Its good that you have your friends for support. Sharing your feelings can help you make sense of them and decide what you want to do next. I know you want to speak to him but are feeling awkward, so you could think about what youd like to say to him and practise saying this with your friends.
You could also think about ways of starting a conversation, as this will make it easier to begin to talk to him. You could start off by talking to him online or by text - this can be easier than face-to-face but it's important to remember that any message online can be saved and shared with other people so think about what you say. Also, think about ways to spend more time with him like being friends first. This will help you to get to know each other better.
If it still doesnt seem like hes interested in a relationship then its going to be better for both of you if you try to move on. This can be hard to do but it often means spending time focussing on other things in your life and making sure you dont get stuck on these feelings for him. You could focus on yourself, the things you enjoy, meeting other people and finding new hobbies or interests.
When youre in love with someone, it can be really difficult to cope if they dont return these feelings. Remember to get support for yourself. You can talk to your friends, ask an adult for help, get support from other young people on our message boards or talk to a counsellor.
Take care,
Sam
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