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Hi there,
Its never okay for someone to harass you like this. Even when youre in a crowded situation, it's wrong for someone to purposely touch you inappropriately or make you feel uncomfortable.
You shouldnt ever have to pretend that this harassment didnt happen. In fact being able to accept that something happened can be a big part of being able to move on.
Feeling like you can't trust guys after you were treated badly is understandable. Its not your fault that youre feeling that way and it doesnt mean that these feelings wont ever change.
Its important to remember that not all guys are the same as the man who assaulted you. Men are people just like women. Some people are nice, some arent - and most of us fall somewhere in the middle. It can help to remind yourself about what you like about your male friends. You could even think about how theyd react if you told them you were feeling like this.
If someone is inappropriate or makes you feel uncomfortable, their gender never makes it okay or normal. It can be difficult knowing what to do, but youre never doing anything wrong by talking to members of security or even the police. Part of their role is to protect people from anyone who is being inappropriate. By telling them whats happening, youre protecting everyone there.
After something like this happens it can help to talk to a ChildLine counsellor, theyre there to listen and support you with anything that might be happening.
Take care,
Sam
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