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Hi,
Everyone always has the right to choose their friends. Nobody has the right to force you to stay in a friendship that is making you feel unhappy or left out.
It seems like you might compare yourself to this friend a lot, but its good to remember that were all different and its not healthy to compare yourself to someone else. When someones confidence and self-esteem is low they might not be able to see themselves as others see them.
It could be that your friend is unaware of how you feel. Explaining how you feel in an assertive and clear way can help someone understand how their words and actions affect you. Being assertive is explaining how you feel and what you need without being rude or aggressive.
If you want to leave a friendship its important not to be nasty to anyone. You can get along with someone and hang out in the same group as them without being really close friends.
ChildLines top tips for making friends page helps people think about making new friends. This could be people from other classes at school that you meet in after school or lunchtime clubs or people you meet through hobby groups and shared interests.
Dont forget that you can always talk to a ChildLine counsellor any time and that you have a safe place to talk confidentially.
Take care,
Sam
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